Your commitment to connecting to the people around you is a reflection of how you feel about yourself.
Character is made from yourself.
Reputation is what other people think of you.
You need contact with other people to build a character that doesn’t give a shit about reputation.
You willingness to see beyond the faults, choices, and habits of others is directly related to how well you accept the faults in your own existence.
In a single lifetime, we’re introduced to several different kinds of people. If we are true to ourselves and others, we can make each interaction a spiritual one. Find something to offer and/or something new to learn from these exchanges. Use them as opportunities to be present and connected so that you may see yourself in someone else. Pushing human contact and connection, friendly or romantic, away is dysfunctional, and has perhaps been imparted to you by someone else’s disaffection.
Connecting with others is natural. Wanting to prolong connection with someone is not a sign of weakness. Wanting to advance your current mode of contact into something more is not needy.
Things to do when you want to talk to someone.
1. Stop making a story about whether someone should call you first, or if it has been enough time to feel like you have the green light. This goes for both men and women. It does not limit your individuality or independence to reach out to someone. You should be secure in who you are that you can literally give pieces of you away as you are limitless.
2. Call them. A dial-pad is not a deadly weapon. Making someone’s phone ring is not a crime. Texting is not whole communication and you are not breaking a boundary just because you haven’t spoken on the phone yet. It never was and never will be despite how normalized it may have become in modern interactions.
3. The energetic exchange of human contact allows you to be vulnerable and you grants the person whom you are communicating with the chance to surrender and show themselves.
Meaningful contact defines boundaries, breaks down walls, and is an opportunity for people to show themselves. But, when and how to reach out to someone is a huge point of contention for many people.
…”It’s been three days?”
“He still hasn’t responded…..”
“…..How could she like my post but not tell me about this weekend.”
Contact is a necessity for all, despite how this need looks different for each person. It is the only way we settle into stability if and when we are building trust with someone.
Choosing a mode of contact causes unnecessary stress and anxiety. Life is hard as it is. Don’t add this to the list. If you feel like offering a hug, do it. If you want to slip your hand into someone else’s, go for it. Stroke hair, brush a cheek. Your skin is the largest organ of the body and it responds to touch.
Human vibration is essential, like sunlight to a plant.
Ways you may be hindering your own growth or others by controlling and changing the nature of human contact.
1. You feel on the outside. No one gets you. These “outlier” feelings of alienating and are misguiding you. They are keeping you away from the healing vibrations of other humans. Don’t Do It. And don’t push this idea on someone else.
2. When you close yourself off from others, you close yourself off from what they know and think about, what they are creating and nurturing. You cannot be part of it nor can you share the things you know.
3. If the idea of others causes you to worry that they may interfere and negatively influence your relationship. I can share with you the age old wisdom, “To worry, is to suffer twice.”
If you are pushing people away and out of your life and demanding your significant other to isolate themselves so that you may gain confidence and security. Your fear is impairing you. Your insecurities are negatively impacting your partner’s sensibilities the power of your relationship will be diminished.
We all want the quick fix, right? The magic pill that will bring us the greatest body we’ve ever had. So, why then don’t we all do high intensity exercises?
High Intensity Interval Training, known as HIIT usually refers to aerobic based exercises, and High Intensity Resistance Training, known as HIRT is basic lifts but put into an interval scheme with a timed period of work and rest. The concept behind this training is that you are not letting your heart, muscles, and cells recover before adding to their workload. The only thing you need is an interval timer – Get an App, there’s tons.
Benefits of High Intensity anything:
See what you are capable of.
Change body composition in a considerable way in a very short period of time.
Shrink abdominal/ trunk fat mass.
Improve aerobic and anaerobic conditioning.
Maximal Caloric Expenditure:
What is most interesting, to me anyway, is that the caloric expenditure during prolonged cardio is greater than the calories burned during short bursts of high intensity cardio BUT calories keep burning long after the short bursts of HIIT is over.
This is a bang for your workout buck!
When looking at caloric expenditure – the energy your body uses to produce the work to complete your exercise, it should be calculated over a period of a week, or daily and looked at a glance, NOT just what was burned during exercise. When trying to change body composition, it is important to think big picture to keep a meaningful perspective.
Higher EPOC: HIIT, HIRT does an incredible things for Excess Post-Exercise Oxidation Consumption, aka the amount of calories burned after the exercise is over. Why do we still burn calories even after we’ve stopped moving? The body has to restore itself, i.e. replenish energy resources, re-oxygenate blood and restore the circulatory hormones, decrease body temperature, and regulate your breathing and heart rate. How long does this process take? The higher the intensity of your workout, the longer it will take to balance the body to pre-exercise levels, aka more calories are spent. YAY!
But are you ready?
Now, just like anytime you level up: There’s pre-requisites. High Intensity is like entering the High Stakes poker room. Are you properly bank-rolled?
You need a strong base. You can’t be five years out of doing any movement at all and then begin a High Intensity training session and expect to feel good, perform well, or be able to move afterwards. Start Here: Foam Rolling, Weightless routines, or beginning Movement.
HIIT cannot be your only mode of exercise. Learn about training styles.
Be ready to change routines: Meaning you have to change up the actual exercises you do in the intervals.
A proper lifting diet of carbohydrates, proteins, and fats. You need ample glycogen for your high intensity game. This is not a fasting type exercise, otherwise it will be fast and over. If you haven’t eaten in the past twelve hours – you may not have what it takes to push through muscle fatigue.
When you are OFF: Rest. Do not move. Go brain dead, even.
When you are ON: TRAIN LIKE YOU MEAN IT!
Go Hard or Go Home = Hard as a Mother F*cker = HAM
There is a reason that HAM means “I am” in Sanksrit. High Intensity pushes you to the absolutely edge of what you’re capable of, and it is the greatest mind-body conversation you can have, particularly when you’re the one testing your limits and demanding all that you have.
Kinds of High Intensity:
1.The Tabata method is kind of miraculous in the sense that it taxes the anaerobic and aerobic energy systems almost to the edge of what they can bear. Dr. Tabata’s research- yes he’s a real life doctor- and his work demonstrates that it’s possible to generate maximum power while simultaneously conditioning your heart in an incredibly short period of time.
Technical Details :
Total time: 4 min: Intervals: 8 rounds: 20 sec on; 10 sec off.
Whether you’re training arms, legs, core or some other push/pull split, finishing a workout with Tabata may provide you with a pump and fat burning boost you have never experienced before.
Be aware: You are not going to perform like a champ throughout your first Tabata attempt. In fact, it is more realistic to say that you probably won’t complete what seems [to your mind] to be a moderate amount of exercises. GO SLOW! It’s the Tabata style that makes the world of a difference. Instead of focusing on completion, put your effort on maintaining, i.e. staying alive. I kid, but this is no joke.
EXAMPLE: Let’s say the exercise you’ve chosen is the classic Push Up.
You do 20 push ups in your first round, pretty impressive. So impressive and it took so much energy that you were only able to complete 12 in the 2nd. DO NOT GET DISCOURAGED. You now have to focus on maintaining. You must try for 12 in the 3rd round. If you only get 10, this does NOT mean you are a weakling. You have to build up to withstand this kind of training. Just try to match the reps you completed in the previous round and stay upright. So, even if you absolutely could not lower to do one more push-up, hold the plank until that timer dings done.
While four minute workouts sound almost too good to be true, it is only good if you give it your all –and even then– the goodness is only felt after it’s over.
*Advanced Tabata – Do work in both intervals, as in don’t rest. Create a high intensity for 10 sec and low intensity for 20 sec. EXAMPLE: Mountain Sprinters – 20 sec : V-ups/Boat Variation – 10 sec Don’t hate me, I love you
Where to use Tabata:
- On vacation
- Limited Equipment or Space
- Going out on a hot date – or critical interview and need to feel invincible
When to use Tabata:
- Limited Time
- After a quick warm-up as a cardio boost to begin your lifting program.
- In between lifting sets so that you maintain an elevated heart rate and continue to burn fat.
- Post-lifting to purge lactic acid built up in the muscle, flush the waste out of your system, and burn maximal fat.
How to use Tabata:
- Maintain a controlled slower pace – they’re brief intervals – but there’s 8!
- Use lighter weights than normal
- On a belly that has had food in the last three hours
- Make a Move Like a Beast Playlist
- Stay hydrated – you’ll need more water post -workout than other workouts
2. HIRT: High Intensity Resistance Training Routine:
EXAMPLE: SEATED ROW: Pull max weight for 6 reps. Do this 3 X with a rest between. Rest could be 20 sec to 1 min What if you can’t get 6 reps on the 2nd try, and not even ready for the 3rd round when it shows up? TOTALLY NORMAL This is what you are working towards, duh. 😉
3. Spinning Intervals – Spin 1 min, 2 min, even in 3 min intervals using resistance and the following positions as variables to change as you see fit. See Spin Playlists.
- Seated climb
- Standing climb
- Seated fast (downhill)
- Seated upright (the biggest chance to recover)
- Hovering just over the seat with a flat back
The beauty of interval training is the constant shifting that you’re putting your body through…so don’t get stuck on the actual movement you’ve designed for the interval. *Never fully rest when spinning, just slow down or take incline/resistance away.
4. Sprinting Intervals – Run like someone is chasing you.
Switch between walking, jogging, low, middle, and extreme inclines. Play with sprinting for distance or speed. You have to really sprint in numbers you have never seen before. Run at 9,10, even 12 mph. Don’t be scared, its only for .20 of a mile, or for 1 minute. You can do anything for 1 minute! *Try not coming to a full stop, just walk, jog, or raise the incline making it more anaerobic than aerobic or get off the treadmill and do something else in your rest, like push ups.
Already convinced that high intensity is better than long-duration training for calories burned and fat loss, but just not ready for Tabata, AND maybe you like your cardio or workouts to last longer than 4 minutes. It is the journey for you, not the destination.
Turn up the intensity on your existing workout as a change-up in routine – AKA DON’T REST. Or where you would normally rest, do jumping jacks, or jump rope. And then right back to the lifting set of what you working on.
WANT TO TRY BUT YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO : You can do high intensity with anything. It doesn’t have to be eight rounds, it could be three, and the intervals don’t have to be measured in seconds, try minutes or reps. Lift, something as basic as bicep curl or dynamic like Kettlebell snatches, Run, Jog, Jump rope, Body weight exercises, you name it. The possibilities of creating a timed effort of speedy work followed by timed rest or no rest is incredibly easy and fun!
Have fun going HAM.
Heavy Hitters, Suckers…
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