Your commitment to connecting to the people around you is a reflection of how you feel about yourself.
Character is made from yourself.
Reputation is what other people think of you.
You need contact with other people to build a character that doesn’t give a shit about reputation.
You willingness to see beyond the faults, choices, and habits of others is directly related to how well you accept the faults in your own existence.
In a single lifetime, we’re introduced to several different kinds of people. If we are true to ourselves and others, we can make each interaction a spiritual one. Find something to offer and/or something new to learn from these exchanges. Use them as opportunities to be present and connected so that you may see yourself in someone else. Pushing human contact and connection, friendly or romantic, away is dysfunctional, and has perhaps been imparted to you by someone else’s disaffection.
Connecting with others is natural. Wanting to prolong connection with someone is not a sign of weakness. Wanting to advance your current mode of contact into something more is not needy.
Things to do when you want to talk to someone.
1. Stop making a story about whether someone should call you first, or if it has been enough time to feel like you have the green light. This goes for both men and women. It does not limit your individuality or independence to reach out to someone. You should be secure in who you are that you can literally give pieces of you away as you are limitless.
2. Call them. A dial-pad is not a deadly weapon. Making someone’s phone ring is not a crime. Texting is not whole communication and you are not breaking a boundary just because you haven’t spoken on the phone yet. It never was and never will be despite how normalized it may have become in modern interactions.
3. The energetic exchange of human contact allows you to be vulnerable and you grants the person whom you are communicating with the chance to surrender and show themselves.
Meaningful contact defines boundaries, breaks down walls, and is an opportunity for people to show themselves. But, when and how to reach out to someone is a huge point of contention for many people.
…”It’s been three days?”
“He still hasn’t responded…..”
“…..How could she like my post but not tell me about this weekend.”
Contact is a necessity for all, despite how this need looks different for each person. It is the only way we settle into stability if and when we are building trust with someone.
Choosing a mode of contact causes unnecessary stress and anxiety. Life is hard as it is. Don’t add this to the list. If you feel like offering a hug, do it. If you want to slip your hand into someone else’s, go for it. Stroke hair, brush a cheek. Your skin is the largest organ of the body and it responds to touch.
Human vibration is essential, like sunlight to a plant.
Ways you may be hindering your own growth or others by controlling and changing the nature of human contact.
1. You feel on the outside. No one gets you. These “outlier” feelings of alienating and are misguiding you. They are keeping you away from the healing vibrations of other humans. Don’t Do It. And don’t push this idea on someone else.
2. When you close yourself off from others, you close yourself off from what they know and think about, what they are creating and nurturing. You cannot be part of it nor can you share the things you know.
3. If the idea of others causes you to worry that they may interfere and negatively influence your relationship. I can share with you the age old wisdom, “To worry, is to suffer twice.”
If you are pushing people away and out of your life and demanding your significant other to isolate themselves so that you may gain confidence and security. Your fear is impairing you. Your insecurities are negatively impacting your partner’s sensibilities the power of your relationship will be diminished.
One major detail regarding Chakras: They are energetic centers. (see subtle body) The energy within a chakra can be in deficiency, surplus, or balanced and free flowing. Don’t know where to begin? Read Chakras- At-A-Glance.
Sahasrara Chakra:The Seventh Chakra: The Crown Chakra. The Sanskrit word SAHASRARA translates to “A Thousand Petals.”
It is located at the crown of the head: the meeting place between the spirit and body. The convergence of all Nadis.
It is associated with Violet or White.
Ishvara is the element of the SAHASRARA Chakra. It is not like any other element, like Earth or water. It is Divine Consciousness. Its light contains all color vibrations and its brilliance is as powerful as a thousand suns, in the the way a thousand rivers can gather and create a sea. Read more on practicing Ishvara.
The lotus flower is commonly associated with:
The CROWN Chakra is known as the door to Brahma.
Who is Brahma? He is the God of Creation and can be interpreted as the source of light and our pathway to Samadhi.
What is Samadhi? This is a meditative trance that is experienced as spiritual ecstasy.
The 7-Chakra System’s two ends: Chakra 1: Muladhara and Chakra 7: Sahasrara are energetically tied to each other in the way a coin has two sides.
Shakti resides in MULADHARA (Our ROOT Chakra). She holds the essence of Prakriti: How our creative energy flows through and infuses all the natural aspects of life – the meaning we draw from experience.
Shiva resides in SAHASRARA (Our CROWN Chakra.) He holds Purusha: Pure consciousness. The pure spirit, where there is no you separate from being.
We may see each wave as individual. We can witness its peak and feel the splendor, even taste the salt as it crashes on the surf- This is PRAKRITI.
But what about the space between, the ocean drawing back into itself to persist crashing yet another wave on the sand ad infinitum? This rhythm that binds them in a current is the source you cannot see, hear, taste. This inner peace of constant joy and contentment and is also known as PURUSHA, the absolute dimension of being.
MEDHA SHAKTI is the inexhaustible stream of energy that radiates from SAHASRARA. It is an uninterrupted weaving of Prakriti and Purusha. Our mental power and divinity depends on balancing this great MEDHA SHAKTI.
If your CROWN Chakra is blocked:
You may feel like isolated and alone, as if there is no guidance or light in your life. Your Medha Shakti may be depleted and in need of strengthening if you experience any of the following:
- Boredom; Pointlessness
- Lacking Presence – Unable to settle into the now
- Lack of direction
- Cynicism regarding spiritual or sacred aspects of life
- Fatigue: never-ending need to sleep for restoration
- Isolation and loneliness; inability to connect with others
- Inability to set or maintain goals
If your CROWN Chakra is Over active:
When the CROWN chakra has too much Medha Shakti you may feel superior to others, aggressive as you think you know more than most and because of this acquire condescending tendencies and become overly- critical of others. It is also a common theme that those with Over-Active SAHASRARA tend to disregard the importance of human interaction and will subsequently feel alienated.
Symptoms may Include:
- Recurring headaches or even migraines
- Schizophrenia or other delusional disorders
- Disconnected from your body or human experience
- Living in your head and apart from earthly matters
- Obsessive attachment to spiritual matters
- Seeking to guide or control others around you
- Persistent in getting your way
Balancing a CROWN Chakra:
MEDHA SHAKTI is the energy of SAHASRARA.
Common disruptions to this inner source include:
- Stressful environments or relationships
- Sexual intercourse
So how do we build MEDHA SHAKTI up?
Relaxation of the Mind & Body is what strengthens our Medha Shakti. SANTOSHA or Trusting the process is helpful in restoring our MEDHA SHAKTI reserves.
Relaxation of the Mind:
– A valuable technique to quiet thoughts and strengthen the Medha Shakti is Mauna (silence.) Mauna helps us discern between our feelings and the expression of what we feel.
– Meditation strengthens Medha Shakti
Between two musical notes there exists another note, between two facts there exists another fact, between two facts there exists another fact, between two grains of sand, no matter how close together they are, there exists an interval of space, there exists a sensing between sensing – in the interstices of primordial matter there is the mysterious, fiery line that is the world’s breathing, and the world’s continual breathing is what we hear and call silence. -excerpt from Clarice Lispector’s, ‘The Passion According to G.H.’
Visualize your entire being as a lotus flower, unfurling with a glowing white or violet light. Let your physical desires, needs, wants, and emotions fall into the pure void. Focus on this space between things: The bliss of just being, where there is no individual self every piece of you dissolves into light.
Side Note: Meditation is easier when you are behaving consciously. Remember to practice yamas, niyamas, reciting mantras, mudras, etc.
Relaxation of the Body:
-Asana exerts a positive influence on MEDHA SHAKTI and naturally balances our mind body spirit connection.
Spending time in Savasana is especially important when working on the crown chakra.
Viparītkaranī Mudrā (Energy Regeneration Pose),
Yoga Mudrā (Forward Bend sitting on heels) and Shashankāsana (Hare) are particularly beneficial. Agnisāra Kriyā ,
Working with Stones and Crystals:
-Diamond, quartz, amethyst and other white or purple stones are ideal for healing the crown chakra. These can be worn as jewelry or held during meditation and energy healing.