Step 6: Contact

Your commitment to connecting to the people around you is a reflection of how you feel about yourself.

Character is made from yourself.

Reputation is what other people think of you.

You need contact with other people to build a character that doesn’t give a shit about reputation.

You willingness to see beyond the faults, choices, and habits of others is directly related to how well you accept the faults in your own existence.

In a single lifetime, we’re introduced to several different kinds of people. If we are true to ourselves and others, we can make each interaction a spiritual one. Find something to offer and/or something new to learn from these exchanges. Use them as opportunities to be present and connected so that you may see yourself in someone else. Pushing human contact and connection, friendly or romantic, away is dysfunctional, and has perhaps been imparted to you by someone else’s disaffection.

Connecting with others is natural. Wanting to prolong connection with someone is not a sign of weakness. Wanting to advance your current mode of contact into something more is not needy.

Things to do when you want to talk to someone.

1. Stop making a story about whether someone should call you first, or if it has been enough time to feel like you have the green light. This goes for both men and women. It does not limit your individuality or independence to reach out to someone. You should be secure in who you are that you can literally give pieces of you away as you are limitless.

2. Call them. A dial-pad is not a deadly weapon. Making someone’s phone ring is not a crime. Texting is not whole communication and you are not breaking a boundary just because you haven’t spoken on the phone yet. It never was and never will be despite how normalized it may have become in modern interactions.

3. The energetic exchange of human contact allows you to be vulnerable and you grants the person whom you are communicating with the chance to surrender and show themselves.



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Meaningful contact defines boundaries, breaks down walls, and is an opportunity for people to show themselves. But, when and how to reach out to someone is a huge point of contention for many people.

…”It’s been three days?”

“He still hasn’t responded…..”

“…..How could she like my post but not tell me about this weekend.”

Contact is a necessity for all, despite how this need looks different for each person. It is the only way we settle into stability if and when we are building trust with someone.

Choosing a mode of contact causes unnecessary stress and anxiety. Life is hard as it is. Don’t add this to the list. If you feel like offering a hug, do it. If you want to slip your hand into someone else’s, go for it. Stroke hair, brush a cheek. Your skin is the largest organ of the body and it responds to touch.

Human vibration is essential, like sunlight to a plant.

Ways you may be hindering your own growth or others by controlling and changing the nature of human contact.

1. You feel on the outside. No one gets you. These “outlier” feelings of alienating and are misguiding you. They are keeping you away from the healing vibrations of other humans. Don’t Do It. And don’t push this idea on someone else.

2. When you close yourself off from others, you close yourself off from what they know and think about, what they are creating and nurturing. You cannot be part of it nor can you share the things you know.

3. If the idea of others causes you to worry that they may interfere and negatively influence your relationship. I can share with you the age old wisdom, “To worry, is to suffer twice.”

If you are pushing people away and out of your life and demanding your significant other to isolate themselves so that you may gain confidence and security. Your fear is impairing you. Your insecurities are negatively impacting your partner’s sensibilities the power of your relationship will be diminished.

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Step 5: Passion

Step 5 of 12. See 1.Blueprint, 2.Loyalty, 3.Wisdom, 4.Openness

Passion

“When a nation, a society, or individuals no longer create, they begin to die because they are no longer part of the action or movement. They are no longer the beings of listening, no longer the beings of giving to receive; therefore they are not receiving; they are not giving to effort. As a result, they cease to exist on the physical plane.”

-Joseph Rael & Mary Elizabeth Marlow “Vibrations and Being

Passion is the burning desire of creative genius inside you. The dance your body does when you’re happy.

You never learned that. It was always inside of you.

It’s what makes you think and keeps you thinking.

It is your vision of the world as a better place.

What does your voice of Passion sound like? Practice Tapasya to make sure that you have not forsaken your Passion to Reason. Working with Anahata and Visshudi can match your insides with your outsides HOWEVER passion is ultimately developed in the burning furnace of the the 3rd Chakra: Manipura.

  • You determine what your future looks like.

  • You are the one who creates the meaning and how things show up from what you see.

  • You can turn your dream into reality when you create it out of passion, without fear and, most of all, from the heart.

Passion is that alive feeling that makes everything else totally worth it, and by everything else I mean the bullshit, the mundane, the mindless phases of “civilized” existence.Whatever it looks like for you, Passion is the driving force that taps into who we are in our heart and connects to who we may become in this world.

-Tiffany Fuentes

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To create something passionately, we may have to endure some process, some feeling, some’thing’ we want to offer and share with someone else — but this is only possible if you overcame your challenge, paid attention and gained something from your process. Aka you did not become a victim easily pushed around by circumstance.

Some can identify so well with God’s suffering that the persistence of prayer and word of God helps them to live passionately and with compassion for all. That becomes their mission and destiny. Spreading infinite love and the path that took them there: Jesus.

Maybe religion doesn’t speak to you. Maybe your passions are primal, physical, and sensory. You want to sing across Europe, climb mountains, become a great actress, save lives, ride waves, sell over a million copies of your book, jump out of planes, etc..

A person who is a master in the art of living makes little distinction between their work and play, their labor and their leisure, their mind and their body, their education and their recreation, their love and religion. They hardly know which is which and simply pursue their vision of excellence and grace in whatever they do, leaving others to decide whether they are working or playing. To them they are always doing both.

-Lawrence Pearsall Jacks

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 Passion is the link that sets us apart from one another BUT because we all have it, we are all creating links of our experience and what we have come to believe about our existence.

Art is the highest form of faith.

We were created to create.

“When you catch a glimpse of your potential, passion is born.”   -Zig Ziglar

 

 

4: Openness

 12 Steps. See 1. Blueprint 2. Loyalty 3. Wisdom


 Openness: The Quality of Being Open & Flexible. Associated with the Niyama Santosha.

  • Don’t get stuck in one possibility.

  • Situations are rarely as desperate as one thinks when in the moment.

  • Be open to experience something without a pre-conceived notion or expectation of how it is, or should be.

Enlightenment is really a theory of expression.. The ultimate grounded response.. The unwavering you that chooses love and light regardless of what comes up in this life.

-Tiffany Fuentes


the more you know.jpgThe level to which you continue to expand who you are is directly related to your being human. “The More You Know”  is saying you are as infinite as the galaxy, made from star stuff and have the potential to be as magnificent as a shooting star. The way to live a life you love is to ensure that you have not limited yourself or your experience.

Personal evolution happens when boundaries on the idea of who you are are destroyed.

What does this have to do with happiness?

Happiness is a moving target. To hit that target, you have to practice. You have to be agile with a keen awareness of your surroundings.

Rigidity and a narrow scope won’t work.

Sustaining contentment can seem like seeking anti-gravity, wanting to jump and somehow staying suspended in the air. But, before levitation is possible one has to have balance. You must learn to shift your weight and ground down into the Earth in order to receive and absorb force — essentially using energy, your own and that around you, to propel forwards or upwards, to be light, and to soar towards your greatest possibility.

    The mystery of metaphor is the art of listening to life in the activity of work, of allowing yourself to be living harmony. Metaphors give us a way to become more inside our universe. If we can name or identify our world, we know better how to fit in harmony with it.                                                                                                          Harmony is the warmth of the heart slipping through a slice of light. By becoming more attuned to the vibrations in life, we come closer to our natural state. We clear our blocks and our resistances. We discover the power to be.

-Joseph Rael from “Vibrations & Being

The more that you can bring yourself to accept and take on or try new things the more you grow, and become sensitive to everything around you. Work with the Heart Chakra to incorporate more Openness into your life. This will inevitably increase your compassion and connection to all.

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  • What if becoming undone is scary?

  • Do you know your typical habits of resistance? What do you think about when you become vulnerable?

  • Have you recognized the subconscious ways you or others in your life are currently participating in working against the best possible version of yourself?

We have all done this!

We have all questioned what we are really capable of?

What we really deserve?

We spent time thinking of risks instead of rewards and imagined failings as opposed to making our dreams a reality. We have all at some point put limits on who we were, what we liked, and what we would or could do — we have all made bad habits and closed ourselves off from possibilities. We have chosen inadequate lifestyles of isolation and replayed memories that are in response to, or cause pain.  WHY?

Because… We’re human, duh.

It’s totally normal to fear repeating an unpleasant event. We want to learn from our mistakes, so we often let fear guide our decisions and behavior and keep bad memories alive so we “know better.” Quite often, we are not even aware that this is happening. Check that Root Chakra to see if you are caught in perpetual survival mode.

The energy of openness helps you take an honest look at yourself. It literally lets light in on the darkness.

Be careful that the perceptions you’ve been holding onto, aren’t standing in your way from having a life you love.

Change your mind – Change your world.

 

 

Step 3 : Wisdom

Step 3 of 12: See Step 2 Loyalty

Wisdom – To be wise or to be open to wisdom.

These are not the same things. It is thought to be wise when one uses logical analysis, or reasoning. It is widely accepted that wisdom arrives through experience, but doesn’t this leave out the innate sensitivity or cultivated sensibility of awareness.     What if:

To be aware is to be human.

To be human is to be always listening.

Wisdom is eternally and spontaneously arising in life and only needs acknowledgement and reflection to become part of your experience.

If you allow yourself the opportunity to create your own experience, you will see that Gurus are around you all the time. They can come in any forms. But, one must begin by understanding that cutting corners on your life is not an option: Practice Asteya  Read: Understanding the Mind,  Body, and Spirit, how each of them connect and  Pantanjali’s 8 Limbs. 

Gurus are vehicles – they are some sign –  some observational moment where light shines on your darkness. Where you’re guided away from a strong emotion and into a calm abiding. Gurus can be an animal, song, child, scent, or memory. It’s a spirit with a message for you in a language you understand and in the corner of a looking place you regularly see and already waiting in destinations you haven’t yet stumbled upon. By being open, (not resisting or attaching to one particular outcome – yamas) opportunities will flourish, manifesting thoughts into reality, and bringing your future to you..

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Your Higher self can pick up sounds, vibrations, and symbols as this is what your spirit speaks, and if you   listen and work at becoming a better listener – even see your being’s purpose as a receiver- you will tap into this consciousness.

“The front part of the body receives information and the back side of the body passes it on. We are receivers of memory, listening stations of cosmic truths in the here and now, and senders to the future. With the front we face situations, we face life, we walk into things, we meet people face on. The front receives heat from psychic energy, and the backside is the cold “chi” releasing side. That is why we have a front side and back side of the body.

We are little broadcasting stations that openly bridge the future while washing all our moments with memory. That is how we know things. We are simply actors in this life unfolding before us and, as we face life, we leave behind our trail of moments for those who come behind us to resonate to.”

-Joseph Rael & Mary Elizabeth Marlow from ‘Being and Vibration

Wisdom is a noun.

It is as a thing to be attained, but it is also a direction to be pursued, a characteristic to acquire, a perception someone may carry with them, an impression you wish to impart on someone else and it is a feeling of serendipity, a perfect alignment with cosmic energies.

Wisdom is gracefully connecting you to your personal evolution. Every moment is a moment to be cultivating how you play with and manifest energy. The beauty of life is to experience (and learn from) yourself.

The energy of Wisdom centers you in your body, but gives you access to experiences outside the physical plane.

 

Step 2 : Loyalty

Step 2 of 12: See #1 Blueprint

Loyalty – What does this mean?

What does this word loyalty first make you think of? What visualizations come to mind? It typically sends us by the droves to the idea of friends, family, God, perhaps a heritage — dare I say country?

Women: We may not be our past but we cannot deny how history is still with us.

Society, may not be innocent. History does have the word “his” built into its structure. Perhaps, we have come a long way but attached to this word Loyalty are codes of behavior defining our role and sexuality as it pertains to a man or our man. Why? Naturally, some cultures reiterate more than others, but bottom line here is that:

Loyalty starts and ends with you.

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Stay true to what it is that your heart sings.

True to the words you have said out loud. The ideas you have committed to and the actions you have planned. Be loyal to yourself and those that are depending on you, no matter how scary it may seem or how much work is staring you in the face, and despite all those that stand in your way. Be the best you can be. You don’t need anyone’s approval. Practice Swadhyaya.

Perseverance: Loyalty’s right hand woman

Sometimes you are going to put your kindness out there. You are going to go the extra mile and say something when someone else does not. You are going to assume the responsibility, the fault, the whatever it is – You’ll throw it on your back, metaphorically, because you’re strong enough to carry it, particularly when you know it needs to be carried and have the sense of the bigger picture: it means everything to just do it.

And- when you do and are met with nothing but resistance.. From friends no less? From family, even?

This is your trying moment.

When you’re backed by humility & morality, all of your good effort and karmic pleasantries:

                 — that you pulled from deep inside yourself, in the way a                        seed pushes through soil, despite the gravity—

And you are met with contrarians, people bent on arguing because they’re uncomfortable. Their upset is beyond even their comprehension but still, it falls in your lap. How will you console them, and pursue greatness even if these two things seem to be in direct competition?

This is the moment you cannot be disgusted by them or their confusion. It is this moment that you have to persevere and say your message one more time with an even greater amount of love — and then peace out.

“… And I knew that as long as I had that disgust, the world would evade me and I would evade myself. I knew that the basic error in living was finding cockroaches disgusting. Finding disgust in the thought of kissing a leper was my missing the primary life inside me… for disgust contradicts me, contradicts the matter in me.”

-Clarice Lispector, “The Passion According to G.H.”

The energy of loyalty helps you remain true to yourself. Once you have learned how to do that, you can be loyal through and through, without forgetting yourself.

Asteya

Asteya –अस्तेय- Non-stealing. You can’t take nor should you want to take something from someone else. Typically when and if someone is failing at the art of Asteya they may have an imbalanced Muladhara. Greed is the main characteristic of this Chakra’s weaknesses.

Why is it that some drivers can take turns rather easily on a four way stop sign, giving and taking.

Sure, once in a while there is someone that goes out of turn or doesn’t actually know the system of order. But how can they organize themselves so easily, meanwhile some can’t seem to hold the door for one another as they walk in and out of the same building?

But, what does cooperation have to do with non-stealing? Everything.

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For example, asking people to do things for you that you can do for yourself. Why should someone have to

  • Look up a phone number for you

  • Tell you where or how to vacation

  • Say or write what they thought of some restaurant, school?

Your time is not more or less valuable than anyone else.

Learn for yourself. Do you not think that you deserve discovery? Are you such an insecure person with sad thoughts of your decision making and credibility that you have little faith you can handle something on your own?

Or worse do you think you are better than others and see them as busy bodies for your disposal?

  • Do you cut to the front of the line?

  • Impress only to take over someone else’s friend or family member?

  • Taking someone’s pride, debilitating their voice, humor, wit, courage, or god-forbid their sex.

Believe it or not there are some that justify this cruel behavior:

“I can’t stand weakness,” you say. As if this unfortunate event was somehow inevitable for the victim and not you the actor.

Whatever it is that you have taken isn’t yours.                   It will never be yours.

It will always be something that you took from someone else. And a reminder that your actions have inconvenienced someone else for selfish and personal gain.

This behavior is something can only lead to feeling badly and more specifically badly about yourself.

Greatness comes from respecting other people in the way you wish to be respected. If you think not, try it.

Namaste

If this sounds like you – you may also benefit from reading about Ahimsa.

Sahasrara: Crown Chakra 

One major detail regarding Chakras: They are energetic centers. (see subtle body) The energy within a chakra can be in deficiency, surplus, or balanced and free flowing. Don’t know where to begin? Read Chakras- At-A-Glance.

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Sahasrara Chakra:The Seventh Chakra: The Crown Chakra. The Sanskrit word SAHASRARA translates to “A Thousand Petals.”

It is located at the crown of the head: the meeting place between the spirit and body. The convergence of all Nadis.

It is associated with Violet or White.

Ishvara is the element of the SAHASRARA Chakra. It is not like any other element, like Earth or water. It is Divine Consciousness. Its light contains all color vibrations and its brilliance is as powerful as a thousand suns, in the the way a thousand rivers can gather and create a sea. Read more on practicing Ishvara.

The lotus flower is commonly associated with:

  • purity

  • renewal

  • beauty

The CROWN Chakra is known as the door to Brahma.

Who is Brahma? He is the God of Creation and can be interpreted as the source of light and our pathway to Samadhi.

What is Samadhi? This is a meditative trance that is experienced as spiritual ecstasy.

The 7-Chakra System’s two ends: Chakra 1: Muladhara and Chakra 7: Sahasrara are energetically tied to each other in the way a coin has two sides.

  • Shakti resides in MULADHARA (Our ROOT Chakra). She holds the essence of Prakriti: How our creative energy flows through and infuses all the natural aspects of life – the meaning we draw from experience.

  • Shiva resides in SAHASRARA (Our CROWN Chakra.) He holds Purusha: Pure consciousness. The pure spirit, where there is no you separate from being.

We may see each wave as individual. We can witness its peak and feel the splendor, even taste the salt as it crashes on the surf- This is PRAKRITI.

But what about the space between, the ocean drawing back into itself to persist crashing yet another wave on the sand ad infinitum? This rhythm that binds them in a current is the source you cannot see, hear, taste. This inner peace of constant joy and contentment and is also known as PURUSHA, the absolute dimension of being.

MEDHA SHAKTI is the inexhaustible stream of energy that radiates from SAHASRARA. It is an uninterrupted weaving of Prakriti and Purusha. Our mental power and divinity depends on balancing this great MEDHA SHAKTI.



If your CROWN Chakra is blocked:



You may feel like isolated and alone, as if there is no guidance or light in your life. Your Medha Shakti may be depleted and in need of strengthening if you experience any of the following: 

  • Boredom; Pointlessness
  • Depression
  • Lacking Presence – Unable to settle into the now
  • Lack of direction
  • Closed-mindedness
  • Cynicism regarding spiritual or sacred aspects of life
  • Fatigue: never-ending need to sleep for restoration
  • Isolation and loneliness; inability to connect with others
  • Inability to set or maintain goals


If your CROWN Chakra is Over active:




When the CROWN chakra has too much Medha Shakti you may feel superior to others, aggressive as you think you know more than most and because of this acquire condescending tendencies and become overly- critical of others. It is also a common theme that those with Over-Active SAHASRARA tend to disregard the importance of human interaction and will subsequently feel alienated. 

Symptoms may Include:

  • Recurring headaches or even migraines
  • Schizophrenia or other delusional disorders
  • Insomnia
  • Disconnected from your body or human experience
  • Living in your head and apart from earthly matters
  • Obsessive attachment to spiritual matters
  • Manipulation
  • Seeking to guide or control others around you
  • Persistent in getting your way


Balancing a CROWN Chakra:



MEDHA SHAKTI is the energy of SAHASRARA.

Common disruptions to this inner source include:

  • Stressful environments or relationships
  • Conflicts
  • Worry
  • Resentment
  • Crying
  • Anger
  • Hate
  • Jealousy
  • Sexual intercourse
  • Revenge

So how do we build MEDHA SHAKTI up?

Relaxation of the Mind & Body is what strengthens our Medha Shakti. SANTOSHA or Trusting the process is helpful in restoring our MEDHA SHAKTI reserves.

Relaxation of the Mind:

– A valuable technique to quiet thoughts and strengthen the Medha Shakti is Mauna (silence.) Mauna helps us discern between our feelings and the expression of what we feel.

Meditation strengthens Medha Shakti

Between two musical notes there exists another note, between two facts there exists another fact, between two facts there exists another fact, between two grains of sand, no matter how close together they are, there exists an interval of space, there exists a sensing between sensing – in the interstices of primordial matter there is the mysterious, fiery line that is the world’s breathing, and the world’s continual breathing is what we hear and call silence.                       -excerpt from Clarice Lispector’s, ‘The Passion According to G.H.’

Visualize your entire being as a lotus flower, unfurling with a glowing white or violet light. Let your physical desires, needs, wants, and emotions fall into the pure void. Focus on this space between things: The bliss of just being, where there is no individual self every piece of you dissolves into light.

Side Note: Meditation is easier when you are behaving consciously. Remember to practice yamas, niyamas, reciting mantras, mudras, etc.

Relaxation of the Body:

-Asana exerts a positive influence on MEDHA SHAKTI and naturally balances our mind body spirit connection.

Spending time in Savasana is especially important when working on the crown chakra.

Shirshāsana (headstand),

Sarvāngāsana (shoulderstand)

Viparītkaranī Mudrā (Energy Regeneration Pose),

Yoga Mudrā (Forward Bend sitting on heels) and Shashankāsana (Hare) are particularly beneficial. Agnisāra Kriyā ,

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Working with Stones and Crystals:

-Diamond, quartz, amethyst and other white or purple stones are ideal for healing the crown chakra. These can be worn as jewelry or held during meditation and energy healing.