Step 2 : Loyalty

Step 2 of 12: See #1 Blueprint

Loyalty – What does this mean?

What does this word loyalty first make you think of? What visualizations come to mind? It typically sends us by the droves to the idea of friends, family, God, perhaps a heritage — dare I say country?

Women: We may not be our past but we cannot deny how history is still with us.

Society, may not be innocent. History does have the word “his” built into its structure. Perhaps, we have come a long way but attached to this word Loyalty are codes of behavior defining our role and sexuality as it pertains to a man or our man. Why? Naturally, some cultures reiterate more than others, but bottom line here is that:

Loyalty starts and ends with you.

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Stay true to what it is that your heart sings.

True to the words you have said out loud. The ideas you have committed to and the actions you have planned. Be loyal to yourself and those that are depending on you, no matter how scary it may seem or how much work is staring you in the face, and despite all those that stand in your way. Be the best you can be. You don’t need anyone’s approval. Practice Swadhyaya.

Perseverance: Loyalty’s right hand woman

Sometimes you are going to put your kindness out there. You are going to go the extra mile and say something when someone else does not. You are going to assume the responsibility, the fault, the whatever it is – You’ll throw it on your back, metaphorically, because you’re strong enough to carry it, particularly when you know it needs to be carried and have the sense of the bigger picture: it means everything to just do it.

And- when you do and are met with nothing but resistance.. From friends no less? From family, even?

This is your trying moment.

When you’re backed by humility & morality, all of your good effort and karmic pleasantries:

                 — that you pulled from deep inside yourself, in the way a                        seed pushes through soil, despite the gravity—

And you are met with contrarians, people bent on arguing because they’re uncomfortable. Their upset is beyond even their comprehension but still, it falls in your lap. How will you console them, and pursue greatness even if these two things seem to be in direct competition?

This is the moment you cannot be disgusted by them or their confusion. It is this moment that you have to persevere and say your message one more time with an even greater amount of love — and then peace out.

“… And I knew that as long as I had that disgust, the world would evade me and I would evade myself. I knew that the basic error in living was finding cockroaches disgusting. Finding disgust in the thought of kissing a leper was my missing the primary life inside me… for disgust contradicts me, contradicts the matter in me.”

-Clarice Lispector, “The Passion According to G.H.”

The energy of loyalty helps you remain true to yourself. Once you have learned how to do that, you can be loyal through and through, without forgetting yourself.

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What is Wellness?

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What is Wellness?  Wellness is the sum of all your parts, aka being a better human, the best human

If you are healthy, is it something you have worked for?

Are you consciously cultivating a healthier body and a healthier mind?

Are you actively working within your society, be it the community or an organization you belong to, or perhaps it can begin right there in your kitchen, with the food you buy and prepare for yourself and others?

Are you kind?

Are you compassionate to your husband, children, mother, and father?

Have you had to work through differences with people we are meant to call family?

If so, have you sorted through the confusion that comes from such hard decisions, or do you hold on strongly to your theories placing others into a fixed perspective?

Mental wellness is not easy for anyone, but if and when developed will prove to be the most fruitful aspect of our health and happiness.

Why is wellness necessary?

If you aren’t sure that wellness is important to you, then ask yourself what is important. I can guarantee that there will, at some point, be an answer and the only way to get there is by actively working on who you are.

If we break down our existence into simple forms there are a few things that we just can’t do without.

  • We live through the interconnectedness of all beings and their systems as that provides optimal functioning of our systems.

  • We need to breathe oxygen and to consume and metabolize calories so that physical movement is possible. We need other people so that we can do the things we are born to do, like laugh, dance, communicate, etc.

Yet, I haven’t mentioned the necessity of life:

  • Death. Yes, every single thing has its opposite.

Morbid as it may be, death is the only way we know to define and celebrate the experience we call “alive.” So maybe you can live seventy or eighty years without worrying about something like wellness, or your health, or your connection to others, your perception of the world, or how you creatively express the genius that is in you, but the chances that your time alive doesn’t include these wonderful truths, is not a chance I would wish on anyone.