Step 6: Contact

Your commitment to connecting to the people around you is a reflection of how you feel about yourself.

Character is made from yourself.

Reputation is what other people think of you.

You need contact with other people to build a character that doesn’t give a shit about reputation.

You willingness to see beyond the faults, choices, and habits of others is directly related to how well you accept the faults in your own existence.

In a single lifetime, we’re introduced to several different kinds of people. If we are true to ourselves and others, we can make each interaction a spiritual one. Find something to offer and/or something new to learn from these exchanges. Use them as opportunities to be present and connected so that you may see yourself in someone else. Pushing human contact and connection, friendly or romantic, away is dysfunctional, and has perhaps been imparted to you by someone else’s disaffection.

Connecting with others is natural. Wanting to prolong connection with someone is not a sign of weakness. Wanting to advance your current mode of contact into something more is not needy.

Things to do when you want to talk to someone.

1. Stop making a story about whether someone should call you first, or if it has been enough time to feel like you have the green light. This goes for both men and women. It does not limit your individuality or independence to reach out to someone. You should be secure in who you are that you can literally give pieces of you away as you are limitless.

2. Call them. A dial-pad is not a deadly weapon. Making someone’s phone ring is not a crime. Texting is not whole communication and you are not breaking a boundary just because you haven’t spoken on the phone yet. It never was and never will be despite how normalized it may have become in modern interactions.

3. The energetic exchange of human contact allows you to be vulnerable and you grants the person whom you are communicating with the chance to surrender and show themselves.



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Meaningful contact defines boundaries, breaks down walls, and is an opportunity for people to show themselves. But, when and how to reach out to someone is a huge point of contention for many people.

…”It’s been three days?”

“He still hasn’t responded…..”

“…..How could she like my post but not tell me about this weekend.”

Contact is a necessity for all, despite how this need looks different for each person. It is the only way we settle into stability if and when we are building trust with someone.

Choosing a mode of contact causes unnecessary stress and anxiety. Life is hard as it is. Don’t add this to the list. If you feel like offering a hug, do it. If you want to slip your hand into someone else’s, go for it. Stroke hair, brush a cheek. Your skin is the largest organ of the body and it responds to touch.

Human vibration is essential, like sunlight to a plant.

Ways you may be hindering your own growth or others by controlling and changing the nature of human contact.

1. You feel on the outside. No one gets you. These “outlier” feelings of alienating and are misguiding you. They are keeping you away from the healing vibrations of other humans. Don’t Do It. And don’t push this idea on someone else.

2. When you close yourself off from others, you close yourself off from what they know and think about, what they are creating and nurturing. You cannot be part of it nor can you share the things you know.

3. If the idea of others causes you to worry that they may interfere and negatively influence your relationship. I can share with you the age old wisdom, “To worry, is to suffer twice.”

If you are pushing people away and out of your life and demanding your significant other to isolate themselves so that you may gain confidence and security. Your fear is impairing you. Your insecurities are negatively impacting your partner’s sensibilities the power of your relationship will be diminished.

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4: Openness

 12 Steps. See 1. Blueprint 2. Loyalty 3. Wisdom


 Openness: The Quality of Being Open & Flexible. Associated with the Niyama Santosha.

  • Don’t get stuck in one possibility.

  • Situations are rarely as desperate as one thinks when in the moment.

  • Be open to experience something without a pre-conceived notion or expectation of how it is, or should be.

Enlightenment is really a theory of expression.. The ultimate grounded response.. The unwavering you that chooses love and light regardless of what comes up in this life.

-Tiffany Fuentes


the more you know.jpgThe level to which you continue to expand who you are is directly related to your being human. “The More You Know”  is saying you are as infinite as the galaxy, made from star stuff and have the potential to be as magnificent as a shooting star. The way to live a life you love is to ensure that you have not limited yourself or your experience.

Personal evolution happens when boundaries on the idea of who you are are destroyed.

What does this have to do with happiness?

Happiness is a moving target. To hit that target, you have to practice. You have to be agile with a keen awareness of your surroundings.

Rigidity and a narrow scope won’t work.

Sustaining contentment can seem like seeking anti-gravity, wanting to jump and somehow staying suspended in the air. But, before levitation is possible one has to have balance. You must learn to shift your weight and ground down into the Earth in order to receive and absorb force — essentially using energy, your own and that around you, to propel forwards or upwards, to be light, and to soar towards your greatest possibility.

    The mystery of metaphor is the art of listening to life in the activity of work, of allowing yourself to be living harmony. Metaphors give us a way to become more inside our universe. If we can name or identify our world, we know better how to fit in harmony with it.                                                                                                          Harmony is the warmth of the heart slipping through a slice of light. By becoming more attuned to the vibrations in life, we come closer to our natural state. We clear our blocks and our resistances. We discover the power to be.

-Joseph Rael from “Vibrations & Being

The more that you can bring yourself to accept and take on or try new things the more you grow, and become sensitive to everything around you. Work with the Heart Chakra to incorporate more Openness into your life. This will inevitably increase your compassion and connection to all.

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  • What if becoming undone is scary?

  • Do you know your typical habits of resistance? What do you think about when you become vulnerable?

  • Have you recognized the subconscious ways you or others in your life are currently participating in working against the best possible version of yourself?

We have all done this!

We have all questioned what we are really capable of?

What we really deserve?

We spent time thinking of risks instead of rewards and imagined failings as opposed to making our dreams a reality. We have all at some point put limits on who we were, what we liked, and what we would or could do — we have all made bad habits and closed ourselves off from possibilities. We have chosen inadequate lifestyles of isolation and replayed memories that are in response to, or cause pain.  WHY?

Because… We’re human, duh.

It’s totally normal to fear repeating an unpleasant event. We want to learn from our mistakes, so we often let fear guide our decisions and behavior and keep bad memories alive so we “know better.” Quite often, we are not even aware that this is happening. Check that Root Chakra to see if you are caught in perpetual survival mode.

The energy of openness helps you take an honest look at yourself. It literally lets light in on the darkness.

Be careful that the perceptions you’ve been holding onto, aren’t standing in your way from having a life you love.

Change your mind – Change your world.