4: Openness

 12 Steps. See 1. Blueprint 2. Loyalty 3. Wisdom

 Openness: The Quality of Being Open & Flexible. Associated with the Niyama Santosha.

  • Don’t get stuck in one possibility.

  • Situations are rarely as desperate as one thinks when in the moment.

  • Be open to experience something without a pre-conceived notion or expectation of how it is, or should be.

Enlightenment is really a theory of expression.. The ultimate grounded response.. The unwavering you that chooses love and light regardless of what comes up in this life.

-Tiffany Fuentes

the more you know.jpgThe level to which you continue to expand who you are is directly related to your being human. “The More You Know”  is saying you are as infinite as the galaxy, made from star stuff and have the potential to be as magnificent as a shooting star. The way to live a life you love is to ensure that you have not limited yourself or your experience.

Personal evolution happens when boundaries on the idea of who you are are destroyed.

What does this have to do with happiness?

Happiness is a moving target. To hit that target, you have to practice. You have to be agile with a keen awareness of your surroundings.

Rigidity and a narrow scope won’t work.

Sustaining contentment can seem like seeking anti-gravity, wanting to jump and somehow staying suspended in the air. But, before levitation is possible one has to have balance. You must learn to shift your weight and ground down into the Earth in order to receive and absorb force — essentially using energy, your own and that around you, to propel forwards or upwards, to be light, and to soar towards your greatest possibility.

    The mystery of metaphor is the art of listening to life in the activity of work, of allowing yourself to be living harmony. Metaphors give us a way to become more inside our universe. If we can name or identify our world, we know better how to fit in harmony with it.                                                                                                          Harmony is the warmth of the heart slipping through a slice of light. By becoming more attuned to the vibrations in life, we come closer to our natural state. We clear our blocks and our resistances. We discover the power to be.

-Joseph Rael from “Vibrations & Being

The more that you can bring yourself to accept and take on or try new things the more you grow, and become sensitive to everything around you. Work with the Heart Chakra to incorporate more Openness into your life. This will inevitably increase your compassion and connection to all.


  • What if becoming undone is scary?

  • Do you know your typical habits of resistance? What do you think about when you become vulnerable?

  • Have you recognized the subconscious ways you or others in your life are currently participating in working against the best possible version of yourself?

We have all done this!

We have all questioned what we are really capable of?

What we really deserve?

We spent time thinking of risks instead of rewards and imagined failings as opposed to making our dreams a reality. We have all at some point put limits on who we were, what we liked, and what we would or could do — we have all made bad habits and closed ourselves off from possibilities. We have chosen inadequate lifestyles of isolation and replayed memories that are in response to, or cause pain.  WHY?

Because… We’re human, duh.

It’s totally normal to fear repeating an unpleasant event. We want to learn from our mistakes, so we often let fear guide our decisions and behavior and keep bad memories alive so we “know better.” Quite often, we are not even aware that this is happening. Check that Root Chakra to see if you are caught in perpetual survival mode.

The energy of openness helps you take an honest look at yourself. It literally lets light in on the darkness.

Be careful that the perceptions you’ve been holding onto, aren’t standing in your way from having a life you love.

Change your mind – Change your world.





Yamas  यम

Yamas are often written about and discussed as five moral disciplines of Pantanjali. But like any sage wisdom, take what you can and apply it to your life to be the best human you can be. 

  •  Ahimsa -अहिंसा- Non-violence. Don’t hurt anyone or anything. Don’t speak violently or act violently. Don’t think violently. Wish someone well. Don’t wish them disaster. Help each other. Let someone in your lane, particularly if their lane has a closure or blockage! Create an attitude of nurturing and realization so that all is one. Try to see the other side of the story. Envision everyone as the same and connected so that human beings may spring from egoistic impulses towards unification and transcendence of the spirit.
  • Satya -सत्य-  Truthfulness. To be seen as you truly are. To say what you truly behold within, to shine pure light without a veil. There is no greater way to hurt your connection to others than lying. All deeds should be rooted in truthfulness and honesty.Without truthfulness the recitation of all mantras is useless, all becomes futile. One and all should take refuge in honoring the truth.  Never try to impress others with deception. Try to impress yourself and find happiness within you.
  • Asteya –अस्तेय- Non-stealing. You can’t take nor should you want to take something from someone else. It can be food, a pen, clothing, any of the many materialistic items we keep, but also you should avoid taking intangible items from people. Just because people can’t see you taking them, doesn’t mean they’re there for the taking. For example, asking people to do things for you that you can do for yourself. Why should someone have to look up a phone number for you, tell you where to vacation, or what they thought of some restaurant, school? Your time is not more or less valuable than anyone else. Learn for yourself. Or how about cutting to the front of the line. Or taking over someone’s friend or family member, taking someone’s pride, debilitating their humor, wit, courage, or god-forbid their sex.

Justification for this cruel behavior: I have heard folks say they can sense weakness as if this somehow justifies their actions, like this unfortunate event was somehow inevitable for the victim and not you the actor. Whatever it is that you have taken isn’t yours and it will never be yours. It will always be something that you took from someone else, a reminder that your actions have inconvenienced someone else for selfish and personal gain. It is inevitable that this behavior is something that will make you feel badly about you. If you think not, just try to imagine how great it felt that one time when someone returned something to you that you left somewhere. That greatness will come to you when you start respecting other people in the way you wish to be respected.

  • Bramacharya -ब्रमचार्य – Moderation. All thing in moderation, as the old aphorism goes. We often repeat this regarding food and drink, drug, etc. We like to compare ourselves to someone really low on the bar, someone who is setting a standard for no one. Why? Because we want to believe that we’re not that bad, that things can be worse, and it isn’t false. Things can be always be worse, but this kind of logic then becomes synonymous with self-harm. Moderation is key about your consumption, but maybe of all the things you consume and not just the simple and obvious food and drink. For example, how much television do you watch in a day? Do you work on the things you say you want to? How much social media do you keep in a work-day? Are you becoming the best person you can possibly be? Do you read as much as you watch and listen? How often do you look at your activities and try to create a balance? Instead of categorizing them between bad and good and trying to minimize the bad and increase the good, what about finding variety where you have none? What could this do for you? New choices bring about new results. Moderation doesn’t have to only mean the avoidance of excess or extremes, what if it meant to moderate or monitor. The old aphorism also goes, “The un-examined life is not worth living.”
  • Aparigraha- अपरिग्रह – Non Grasping or Non Attachment. This is the most difficult to explain. Aren’t we always grasping for something? A smoke break, lunch, a relationship, a house, a car, new clients, that divorce… It seems like life would be empty if we weren’t reaching for things and then actually attaining them. Even in our yoga practice or gym routine, we are grasping for the ability to do inversions, to be able to squat x amount of lbs. To have this particular body shape, wear that clothing, or to be able to transcend and reach Samadhi through meditation. So, how then do we live in a world that is bent on us thinking and living for the future without grasping for things we do not yet have or need? Don’t even try. It’s impossible. Even the act of trying to live in a non-grasping manner would possibly bring you into a grasping for something phase. The main way to demonstrate that you are non-grasping is to remain as centered as possible and maintain a deep knowledge and trust that you are not attached to whatever it is, that whatever the outcome, you are not going to be devastated or made by great by any one of these things/events.