Asteya

Asteya –अस्तेय- Non-stealing. You can’t take nor should you want to take something from someone else. Typically when and if someone is failing at the art of Asteya they may have an imbalanced Muladhara. Greed is the main characteristic of this Chakra’s weaknesses.

Why is it that some drivers can take turns rather easily on a four way stop sign, giving and taking.

Sure, once in a while there is someone that goes out of turn or doesn’t actually know the system of order. But how can they organize themselves so easily, meanwhile some can’t seem to hold the door for one another as they walk in and out of the same building?

But, what does cooperation have to do with non-stealing? Everything.

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For example, asking people to do things for you that you can do for yourself. Why should someone have to

  • Look up a phone number for you

  • Tell you where or how to vacation

  • Say or write what they thought of some restaurant, school?

Your time is not more or less valuable than anyone else.

Learn for yourself. Do you not think that you deserve discovery? Are you such an insecure person with sad thoughts of your decision making and credibility that you have little faith you can handle something on your own?

Or worse do you think you are better than others and see them as busy bodies for your disposal?

  • Do you cut to the front of the line?

  • Impress only to take over someone else’s friend or family member?

  • Taking someone’s pride, debilitating their voice, humor, wit, courage, or god-forbid their sex.

Believe it or not there are some that justify this cruel behavior:

“I can’t stand weakness,” you say. As if this unfortunate event was somehow inevitable for the victim and not you the actor.

Whatever it is that you have taken isn’t yours.                   It will never be yours.

It will always be something that you took from someone else. And a reminder that your actions have inconvenienced someone else for selfish and personal gain.

This behavior is something can only lead to feeling badly and more specifically badly about yourself.

Greatness comes from respecting other people in the way you wish to be respected. If you think not, try it.

Namaste

If this sounds like you – you may also benefit from reading about Ahimsa.

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How to SPRING into Action [May 1]

Life remembers all the things you do and don’t and she brings them back and then forces you to laugh at your own stupidity. You will have the same lesson over and over again until you learn it. The same things, crazy and strange things that at the time …are so crazy it seems like nothing like this has ever happened before or to anyone else, but in reality… this is not your first time on this ride, and all your besties know it.

Learning to Love yourselfis the definitionof change copyWhy don’t we learn the first time? Or any time after that? Why must we repeat these experiences? Why and how do we forget? When we get the message in the moment we are so clear and sure as we say to ourselves, “Never again will this sort of thing happen.” Then, all of a sudden you’re kind of back where you were, but not really.. but sort of… sure things are different but what’s actually different? Not much. The first emotion is mad, mad as hell. But then… We laugh. We cry. We over analyze. We stay distracted for as long as we can. We listen to the problems of other people. We try to motivate them to do something to feel better, to make a difference. We ruminate on what is ailing them and why this dilemma is happening to them in the first place. We compare our life to theirs and then we shit on ourselves for forgetting that we had our own problems to solve. 

This is the beginning of the complete examination of everything that has brought us to this moment and in one breath, maybe in the shower or during a commute, its non-stop and you don’t feel like you’re gonna make it.

So as not to be furthermore paralyzed by analysis. This is your brain. Not on drugs, just your regular every day brain.  “And why this and why that…” but then something else comes up:     You are alone.

God No! The horror! You can’t do this alone. You need to be next to someone, touching someone, smelling someone. Why should you not get all of these things and cum? You should cum as much as you physically can. Okay, so then you become aligned with another person. This other person is your friend. You laugh with them now. You cry with them now. They are your go-to human, your number 1 fan, your hero, everything you are into and want to be into. You collide and are physically changed. This happens without thinking. This is your body interacting with your spirit, chemically enhancing your senses and giving you access to love. It isn’t gay. It’s magic.

But what about you? You must not stop living for you, doing for you, trusting in you. You are not what this other person, who happens to always be around wants, needs, thinks of, and is entertained by. You are still committed to the one who came before them and by that I mean the pursuit of your extreme and infinite bliss: Your trial and error, your eternal evolution of what it means to be part of the Universe…. The Where, What, and How…of Being Alive.

  • Demand more from you. You can and will shock the shit out of yourself. Don’t look around what others are doing. Don’t wait for some app to tell you how you feel or what the latest trends are. Do not put yourself on the back burner. Answer the hard questions. Don’t cut corners. Put in the extra credit because investing in yourself is the most important thing you can ever do.
  • The more you share, the more you will know. You can only get what you give. Humans share problems and therefore share solutions. We all learn from mistakes, but they do not have to be our own. Once you “sign on” to the collective experience that we share here and engage in the lives around you, saying your insights out loud [what is true in your heart] is what grants you access to all other truths. Your connection to everyone around you is what keeps you alive.
  • Keep your word. Do as you say you do. Have the will to commit to your greatest challenge. Be the best human for human’s sake. Take pride in your integrity.
  • Find stillness/ silence so that you may hear your inner voice. This is your guide.
  • Fill your life with things that give back. Pursue your hobbies and interests. You are the greatest creator you haven’t yet met. Begin Now. Life is already waiting for you.

You are a satellite: a receiver and you soak in the sunshine and it radiates your insides. You are in harmony. You are not fixed. You are like a plant reaching for the sun, designed with your quirky particulars but grown with and for a magnificent purpose because you are connected to the unknown. Your insides, too, are like liquid, completely formless only to then bloom.

You are divine. Make this life as beautiful as possible.

A Plank-less Sun Salutation (save your wrists)

There are many of you that cannot and will not be able to include plank in your practice. It hurts. It hurts your wrists, your elbows, your shoulders. You shake, you’re uncomfortable and it just doesn’t make for an enjoyable experience. So why push for something if it is causing ACTUAL pain?

That being said, if you want to get better at holding plank, you have to persevere beyond the shakes and discomfort. 

Actual pain is something that you cannot get through.

We use the mind to go beyond the limitations of the body.  

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Practice this flow to open up you shoulder joint and soon, almost like magic, planks will be that much easier. Activate your core throughout this entire flow. 

Uttanasana – Forward Fold

Malasana – Deep Seated Squat (with wide legs/ head up or down/ many arm options)

Anuvittasana – Standing Backbend

 

Wide Legged into Wild Thing

Practicing asana is only one of many details that fall under the umbrella of yoga.

But it’s lovely isn’t it?

yoga- wide leggedBeing able to move and stretch, breathe and hold all of your body weight in ways you never thought possible.  A yoga flow can come from careful planning, or following a flow that sets out to achieve a certain release in an area of the body:

Heart Opening , Hip Opening , Backbending  and so forth.

Sometimes listening to your body and letting her guide you as to where to move next can be the most gratifying part of your yoga session.

Have you ever just moved through space letting your thoughts completely disappear and watch your hand and foot dance without any hesitation?

 

Lunge or Crescent lunge – Anjaneyasana

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Wild thing – Camatkarasana.

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Standing Splits – Urdhva Prasarita Eka Padasana

Chatturunga

Downward Dog – Adho mukha śvānāsana

 

Practice is Everything

It’s called a practice because it’s not perfect.

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The other day I put up a photo of my meal prep Sunday. My caption said, “If I can do it, you can do it.”

Some friends of mine made fun of me. That I was nuts to not only think this, but to write it in a post. But what they don’t realize is that I literally couldn’t do many of of these postures. I owe it to writers and photographers who have captured others’ practice and made books and articles available so we can continue to learn from each other. I owe it to teachers who are fearless in putting new and exciting challenges together that are outside the yoga practice box. And lastly, I owe it to my will for pushing my body & my mind for listening and the trusting the bond between the three.         Mind Body Exchange, Baby.

The goal:

Hold Downward Dog and try to grab a hold of and bind alternate hand and foot. It seems utterly impossible at this moment. But, just like anything else.        You give it effort and it gives in.

 

 

Satya: Truth-fullness (A closer look at me)

Satya -सत्य-  Truthfulness. To be seen as you truly are. Can we do this?

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Can we for even one day be seen as we truly are? I thought about it this morning, as I checked my eyebrows for hairs that didn’t belong. No we cannot was the answer as I put a little concealer on a dark spot and blush on my cheeks. I am not exactly changing who I am but these bathroom habits are definitely NOT in line with Satya. The practice of “being seen” as I truly am. Instead, I am covering up that which I find undesirable, or that which you have presented to me as a society as undesirable, and so on. 

But my words are surely truth, right? Can I say what I truly behold within and nothing more? Do we say everything we mean?

The truth hurts, but forgiveness heals. So here goes, My Truth:

 About a year ago I had a very special man visit me. It wasn’t the first time I would see him, but this wasn’t a usual visit either. He was my boyfriend, and up until that time we were in a long-distance relationship. With him in the states, there was something very special in order: marriage. I say marriage because it wasn’t a wedding either of us were after. We just needed paperwork, well me in particular as I was going to go back to his country to live long term with him. It seemed silly that we had to do this a second time. {Yes, the first time we had tried to get married was in France about six months earlier. I wasn’t getting anywhere so I left without a marriage or a boyfriend.}

So here we were, starting anew, certain of the steps needed to begin our life together. It was six months and it happened so fast. Before I could tell you why – I was experiencing his anger, we were fighting, there was sadness, bitterness, uncertainty, and so much insecurity. It was deja vu, only worse because this time, the stakes were so much higher. This was my home, I couldn’t leave. This was his second chance, why would he do this, twice? A serious upset about a ring that I never received. He didn’t want to talk about it with me. He didn’t want to talk about anything with me, really. It seems silly to have such build-up seeing that we were both in agreement just six months prior and knew our timeline.

In the interim, I told some people my life’s plans, not here of course, as there was nothing really going on here. This was just a place of limbo where he and I figured out how many papers we needed to sign and where we needed to sign them. The real juicy part that I loved sharing was our plan for once we returned overseas. These lovely people– my friends– my family were overjoyed at my prospective future. This bright union I was creating and even though he and I weren’t exactly loving with one another, I believed in us. But, then it happened. I broke our silence. I had to know what was going on. It wasn’t happening. I knew the answer, but I didn’t have the why. I didn’t get that either. He still to this day would tell you or anyone how much he loves me and wants to be with me, but just wasn’t ready, just wasn’t comfortable and has no idea what he needs to get to that comfort level.  

I didn’t and I don’t know what to say to this. How can one respond?  I don’t think he should get married if he thinks of himself as solitary man, and he did say this to me once. I agree that it’s quite unnatural for humans to want to marry one person and stay with that person forever, forcing them to submit to monogamy, simply because monogamy can only exist mutually. I do think that marriage is antiquated, useless even, a piece of paper, but I also loved him and if I wanted to be in his country with no problems building my life with him, I needed him to marry me. I needed him to want to marry me as much as I wanted to be in his life. We were committing to the same thing, except not exactly, except not at all. I couldn’t make him walk or talk. He didn’t understand everything he was going through leaving it utterly impossible to relay to me.

We discussed our change of plans about a week before our actual city hall date. My friends and family had already thrown me little get togethers and had given little gifts and were talking about it everyday. I didn’t know what to tell them, so I didn’t. It never occurred to me that, they didn’t need to know. They did (need to know.)  But I wasn’t going to be there for very long. I didn’t see these people in the kind of setting that lent itself to a sit down and chat. I was leaving the state, regardless that I wasn’t going overseas. They deserve(d) to know. They made so many of those horribly sad days bearable. They are the reason I didn’t fall apart like a wet paper bag. They believed in me, albeit the lying me, but this is what held the broken-hearted me in one piece. Today, I ask them for forgiveness.satya image 2

There is no greater way to hurt your connection to others than lying. AND I was a BIG FAT LIAR. Never try to impress others with deception.                                                                              Try to impress yourself and find happiness within you.

 

 

#yama #truthfullness #satya #getfitwithtiff #mindbodyexchange #honesty

Hip and Shoulder Warm Up

Like a moth to the flame burned by the fire;

My love is blind, can’t you see my desire. 

Burning inside you is all that you will ever need.

       Give your joints the blood flow they need. Move Slow. Put yourself into a trance.

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UJJAYI BREATH: Breath in through your nose with a narrowed back of the throat. What does that mean, almost like you are purposely growling. This kind of breath feeds the fire within. Grip the floor. Push off and pull in. Activate your insides. How much can you suck your belly button in? Become small. How close can you get your nose to your knee? Close your eyes. Bask in the silence of your concentration.  Exhale to get even more compact. Become long. From the wall in front of you to the wall behind you, draw your head away from your feet. Spread your fingers away from each other. Everything blooms. Inhale into into that new space you just created. 

Move Fast. Your skin will open up and perspire. Your heart will forcefully push blood to all ends of your body. Open your eyes. See how grounded and ready you are to move with intention. Every great practice needs a great warm-up. 

(This video was sped up. Going through this sequence once can take 4 minutes.)

Forward Fold – Uttanasana

Inverted Plank – Purvottanasana

Rolling Wave –  Kumbhakasana –> Adho mukha śvānāsana